Things that are romantic:
Sending someone a love letter
Writing a poem
Sending them flowers
Telling them why you love them
Saying they look nice
Putting their needs and happiness before yours
Standing by them through anything
Buying them yarn
Making someone laugh
Being stupid and silly together
Listening to their problems
trying to please them sexually
Things that are NOT romantic:
Treating someone like a child
Calling them dumb
Demanding that although they think they love you, they really don’t because they aren’t smart enough to understand their own feelings
Refusing to even try to compromise because it is in the best interest of the one you love
Insisting that they need to watch you commit suicide
Telling the love of your life and parents that you don’t care how your suicide would break their hearts and telling them to “live boldly”.
Wallowing in self pity and wail that life isn’t fair because you are paralyzed through no fault of your own. Sure, you didn’t look before driving out into oncoming traffic and could have killed someone, but everyone does that, right?
You are also rich because your parents have a lot of money, which isn’t fair either but who cares. Life is hard even when you have the best medical care, assistive technology and 2 full time assistants. Just complain to a poverty stricken young woman that loves you and tell her you have absolutely nothing to live for.
If all of this sounds familiar, it’s because it’s the plotline of the movie/book Me Before You.
Why in this day and age do we still have to deal with such widespread ableism that this is considered romantic? Love is unconditional or it isn’t love. Love is also eternal whereas grief is temporary. Depression an illness that needs to be treated. If you feel suicidal, then please remember that help is available and your death would matter to those who love you.