An excuse to make an excuse

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This is beautiful. As the mom of a special needs child, this has always been a favorite quote of mine. The condition that makes him disabled also makes him creative and unique. Learning to accept your limitations while celebrating your strengths is my definition of maturity.

3 comments

  1. badparentingweb · September 19, 2017

    Well, I wish I hadn’t read down to the “Why I Wrote This” section, because I was going to sound so smart when I said, “This looks like a problem for Carol Dweck!” The fixed vs. growth mindset, and teaching the concept of grit, drive what we do at my alternative high school just about every damn day.

    It’s interesting stuff to read about, if anyone cares to, and offers child-rearing advice such as not telling your kid that they’re smart. If you call them smart, they could believe it’s an innate trait of theirs. They might become too afraid to get things wrong, because then they’d look stupid and not smart. That’s the fixed part; whatever you’re born with, like your level of intelligence, is what you get for the rest of you life. This leads to a whole host of other issues like the inability to confront personal deficiencies, jealousy (and schadenfreude) toward successful people, and generally feeling like success can never be theirs because they weren’t born with it.

    I agree that the whole fish climbing a tree analogy serves more as a way to rationalize not wanting to work hard toward a goal.

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    • askagimp · September 20, 2017

      That sounds really interesting. Should I just search for Carol Dweck or is there a title that you recommend? I think this would be helpful for N. Because of his autism, he takes things very literal and can often come to very odd conclusions that only makes sense to him. For example, he thinks Jesus is a zombie because He rose from the dead. 😂 I like to read a lot of parenting books because my approach to parenting is constantly changing based on his needs. Please feel free to contact me when you find a good parenting book.

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      • badparentingweb · September 20, 2017

        I haven’t found any good parenting books. Honestly, you can glean what you need from that short video and from cursory searches on Carol Dweck’s philosophy. Even simply search some terms like “growth vs fixed mindset” or anything done recently on grit. It’s very difficult to teach, other than through examples.

        For some reason, autistic kids taking things so literally is really, really endearing. I saw a program on how this one characater from Guardians of the Galaxy (the really big, strong one) takes everything literally and how he’s kind of a hero for autistic children. I’m not sure how to teach figurative language other than through plenty of examples.

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